Top 10 tips to achieving your goals, now!
In the words of Mark Twain, “Never put off till tomorrow what may be done the day after tomorrow just as well.”
Procrastination is a motivation killer, but it’s often not the only reason why we haven’t achieved our goals.
At some point in our life, we all become a little stuck. Perhaps you can’t decide the best route forwards. Perhaps you have so much on your plate you don’t know where to start. Either way, there’s a few simple steps that can get you back on track. So in this blog, I’ll share with you my top 10 tips to achieving your goals, now!
1. Seek discovery, not results
Keep yourself motivated towards your goals by focusing on the exciting parts- discovering, improving, exploring and experimenting. If you focus purely on the outcome, the journey to that can become long, arduous and boring. In other words- enjoy the journey!
This one goes without saying. When you’ve got a big task ahead, try to identify ways to make it fun. That might be dancing along to your favourite music as you pack up your home ready for a big move. For me, it’s buying some snazzy new stationery to motivate me to do my bookkeeping! Find out what works for you! Monitor your attitude and mindset surrounding the task on a daily basis to help ensure it stays fun as you progress along the journey. If it gets dull, change it up.
3. Choose your thoughts carefully
Thoughts influence feelings. Feelings influence thoughts. Not only that, but they can both determine how you view your life. We can give negative thoughts lots of time and attention and let them flourish, like a pesky weed. Or, we can ignore the negative thoughts, focus on the positive, and operate from a place of positivity. Human beings are hard-wired to negativity (it’s a surivival thing!) Whilst we can’t overcome this in-built programming, we can choose to ignore the thoughts that don’t serve us.
4. Rewire your brain
The next step after avoiding negative thoughts is to use your imagination. If you find yourself constantly thinking how much you despise doing paperwork, guess which feelings those words will evoke. If you really want to tackle that goal and finally clear your desk of clutter, you need to change that statement into a positive. “I will enjoy having all my paperwork processed and filed away.” Instead of “I don’t earn enough money in my job”, try “I’d love the opportunity to earn more money in my job.” Put positivity out, get positivity back!
Write down your goals, all of them, big, small and massive. Then decide (on a scale of 1-10, just how important that goal is to you. 1 being not very, 10 being MUST ACHIEVE!) Put a number next to each goal. Now consider what (if anything) are you willing to sacrifice in order to achieve it? If you’re not prepared to give a little, perhaps you don’t really want it as much as you thought. If nothing’s going to stop you getting that goal, motivation to achieve it will easily follow suit.
6. Accountability is key
One of the reasons why working with someone like me can be so powerful is accountability. You know next time we meet I’m going to ask you how you progressed. If you’re really interested in achieving a big goal, tell someone that you trust what you’re doing and when you plan to do it by. Ask them to check in with you. Knowing they’re going to ask is going to put a fire up your behind to keep at it!
I personally find there’s no better time to tidy the house than when I’ve got a less-than-exciting job that I ought to be doing instead. Sounds familiar? Meaningless things and distractions will always be in your way, especially those easy, usual things you would rather do instead of focusing on new challenges and meaningful projects. Identify what your time-wasting activities are (social media should probably be on that list!), and make a conscious effort to avoid them. Some of my clients find scheduling “screen time” during their day is an effective way to avoid the constant temptation to check what’s happened on Facebook in the 3 minutes since you last looked. Perhaps scrolling Insta can be a fun reward for achieving your daily goal.
8. You’re not alone, but don’t rely on others
Everyone has their own needs, wants, desires and goals. In my experience, one of the biggest barriers to achieving a goal is that the goal hinges on the cooperation, collaboration or involvement of others. You should never expect others to do it for you, not even your partner, friend or boss. If your goal of a newly renovated kitchen relies on your partner doing the work when they’re already on a 40 hour work week, chances are, that goal will never be realised. Look instead at how you could take steps to achieving that goal without needing them to do it for you.
9. Limit your plans
This might sound counterintuitive, given most coaches love cliches like “DREAM BIG!” But no. Limit your plans to the next three steps only. When setting a goal, I find it useful to break that goal down into smaller goals, and then break those smaller goals into action steps. I then set out to achieve only the first three of those action steps. Fill out your weekly calendar, noting when you will do what and how. When-what-how is your new mantra. Review how each day went by what you learned and revise what you could improve next week. By taking this approach you will move forward organically and won’t overwhelm yourself with too much to do.
10. Don’t forget about you!
Motivation is great. It’s not, when you wake up full of beans with a plan in place and then don’t stop until you collapse on the sofa late at night. That’s a fast track to burnout, my friend. Take time to check in with yourself and recognise any of your signs of tiredness and take time to rest. Allow your body and mind to rest with scheduled relaxation and fun time.
A final thought
You don’t lack motivation because you’re lazy. We all get a little lost sometimes, and lose our enthusiasm for a project. Yes, even the most accomplished athletes and richest business people need a life coach. Don’t beat yourself up if you have an off day. Take some time off, and come back the next day with renewed enthusiasm for your goal.
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